"This Shouldn't Be Happening!"

At the beginning of the month, I was just getting started on an inspiring little post to help everyone kick off the new year on a positive note, when my personal world got rocked BIGTIME. A Huge Personal Crisis arrived at my door, seemingly out of nowhere, and knocked me flat on my butt. The kind of thing that makes you feel like you're coming apart at the seams. The kind of thing that makes you want to go to bed for 6 months and hope it'll all be gone when you wake up. The kind of thing that makes you wonder if anything in your life will ever be the same again.

And of course my first reaction to this crisis was "This should NOT be happening!" Not to *me*, and certainly not right now! I did NOT want to accept this big mess as part of my life. But like John Lennon said, "Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans." Just when we think we know where we're headed, we're handed a big, unpleasant "surprise". Often, our bodies are involved in some way. Like when we get a frightening diagnosis. Or a chronic illness gets worse instead of better, even after we "did everything right". You'll have to excuse the Star Trek reference, but the Borg do have a point when they say "Resistance is futile." When this really big stuff hits, there's not much else you can do but surrender to it, accept that it's part of your life journey, and move forward with as much grace as you can muster (even if that's not a whole lot).

Of course, EFT is a powerful tool for helping you to release that resistance and move forward. Here's a tapping script to help you find more peace when life throws you a giant curveball:

Setup (karate chop):
Even though I'm absolutely sure that this should not be happening to me, I love and accept myself
Even though I can't believe this is happening, and I don't know what did I do to deserve this, I accept who I am and how I feel
Even though I'm terrified right now, and I don't know if I can handle this, I love and accept myself, and I'm open to receiving support in any way it wants to come to me

Eyebrow: This should NOT be happening to me!
Side of Eye: I can't handle this right now
Under Eye: This isn't fair, I've done everything right
Under Nose: I'm so scared
Chin: How could this happen to ME?
Collarbone: I don't know what to do
Under Arm: Nothing is ever going to be the same again
Top of Head: I wish someone else could fix this for me

Eyebrow: I just want this to go away!
Side of Eye: What did I do wrong?
Under Eye: This isn't the life I ordered
Under Nose: I would NOT have chosen this!
Chin: Maybe on some level I did choose this
Collarbone: Maybe there's a gift in here somewhere
Under Arm: I don't know why this happened
Top of Head: But I can choose to trust that it's part of my journey

Eyebrow: I can choose to trust
Side of Eye: That I'm going to learn more about Who I Really Am
Under Eye: I'm open to the idea
Under Nose: That I can release my resistance to this experience
Chin: I can choose to relax and surrender
Collarbone: I can trust that the Universe is always supporting me
Under Arm: I'm open to feeling fully supported
Top of Head: I choose to move forward with grace & ease

As always, make sure to tap on any specific events that come up, too!

More resources for helping you deal with The Really Tough Stuff:

The Work (also see any of Byron Katie's books, especially Loving What Is)

Broken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow by Elizabeth Lesser

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